As an alum of Sandburg and a victim of bullying while I was there, it truly is tragic and heartbreaking to hear about Ryan's death and my heart goes out to his family. Hopefully this will open everyone's eyes to see that there is a MAJOR problem with harassment at the school and that things start to change.

My Heart goes out to the family and friends of Ryan. This is way to young to be losing kids! When are kids going to learn that bullying kills! Also I am a Sandburg Alum , once an Eagle always an Eagle! SOAR HIGH ABOVE THE CLOUDS RYAN! May you be at Peace!

Somthing needs to be done about bullying i am sick and tired of hearing about kids committing sucide due to it. am i surrpised it happened at Sandburg? hell no because i went to jr high with some of those kids who are now attending sandburg and i got brutually bullied by kids in jr high. these kids have no clue what the hell their doing and do not no the consequences of their actions. something needs to be done and done now. Adminstration needs to get their act together to do somthing other than bringing kids in their office and scoulding them. The adminstation has failed many times in my jr high and other schools when it comes to bullying. I hope ryans case shows everyone a message. God bless ryan and his family. my thoughts and prayers go out to them. Remember God wil never give you anything you can not handel

This breaks my heart to hear such a tragic event happen so close to home. My daughter has been getting bullied for two years now. I actually had a meeting last week at lockport highschool to try and stop this, however they just brushed it off like my daughter asked for it. Then I even suggested having an assembly on bullying, and that was shut down. Last yr. someone told her she was so ugly she should just kill herself. I would have sleepless nights checking on her. When is this gonna end, my daughter went from being a positive person to a mean person that hates highschool. I'm so sick of this. If there's anything I can do, speak to students, parents whatever, I'm here to help. Bullying needs to stop and I'm so sorry that it lead an innocent boy to do such a horrible thing. It surely opened my eyes that this is serious and something needs to be done.

I have a question about the bullying stuff....Has anyone from his family, or maybe his close friends, suggested that he was a victim of bullying? I am not suggesting that anyone has falsely jumped to that conclusion, I'm just wondering how we got there.

So many thanks to all who have helped spread the word on this tragic day. As a mother of 2 - I cannot imagine how terrible this is for the family of this young, handsome wonderful man. Bullying should be a crime - at all levels of age.

Bullying is always a sad issue; however it is sadder when people feel alienated to the point they don't share their feeling with loved ones. Especially kids need to understand it is " ok" to feel lost or show signs of weekness or despair! Many who are mourning today are feeling a sense of guilt thinking they could have helped him or that they didn't do enough for him.....I say to them, you couldn't because he didn't reach out, or show the signs, This is common trait amongst young people because it is not cool to show emotions. But all the outpour of support is making up for it, and you are all awesome for it... and will now be better humans than you were yesterday... that is HIS legacy!!!....I am a Sandburg mom who share in your love and grief.

Very sorry to hear about your loss.

It is so sad that he couldn't see the value of his life. Kids need to know that there is more to life than what others think of them. They need to know there is a God that loves them and his name is Jesus. My prayers go out to the family that they will somehow find relief from their sorrow. I am going to hug my kids when I get home.

Whatever pain he was suffering, and he must have suffered silently; go for help, talk to someone, anyone who can direct you for help; it is ok to cry, get counseling or take medication if you suffer from depression-and I especially ask young, strong, brave men to hear this message. May God hold you in the palm of his loving hand Ryan.

How tragic for the family. My condolences to the family as you grieve the loss of your wonderful loving son. May he rest in peace and live on in your hearts.

I am curious how the bully's feel when the object of their torture commits suicide? Do t hey feel guilt? remorse? or do they feel like it would have happened anyway?

I hope they feel the former.

Freedom of.speech. can't do anything .gotta have will to not listen to the haters.

My most sincere condolences to Ryan's family and friends. I pray that you might find peace and understanding about your tragic loss. My grandson is Ryan's friend and is quite shaken and saddened by his untimely death. I can somewhat understand your grief as one of my family members took his life and it ISN'T something that gets better with time or heals but you do learn to live with it most days. I hope that you find peace one day and carry Ryan and your love for him in your heart. Talking about him and sharing memories will keep him alive in your heart. God Bless Ryan,his family and friends. D.B.

Suicide is the answer nowadaysit seems. Stand up for urself. No one can make u do this. Everyone's been bullied. Every high-school has bullys. It wont.change no matter what the law tries to do. People really need more will to live. I don't know any of my real parents and im still here. Grew up with just a sister. People take a lot
for granite. #endsuicide

Suicide is the answer nowadaysit seems. Stand up for urself. No one can make u do this. Everyone's been bullied. Every high-school has bullys. It wont.change no matter what the law tries to do. People really need more will to live. I don't know any of my real parents and im still here. Grew up with just a sister. People take a lot
for granite. #endsuicid

No offense but it's people like you that let this kind of stuff happen. You are so blind to see what a serious problem this really is in these High Schools. My niece is a victim of bullying and nothing is ever done about it. We talk to her everyday and let her know how much we love her and are there for her. I don't know what I would do if something this tragic happened to her. I wish more people would wake up and see what a problem bullying really is.

My daughter attends Carl Sandburg and was friends with Ryan. I remember being on Facebook ("stalking her"....) and saw Ryan Nash on her wall. I instantly noticed his beautiful smile, charming demeanor, and witty comments. My prayers go out to the Nash family. I cannot believe this has happened to such a beautiful young man with his entire life ahead of him. If bullying was a factor, God help those kids who have to live with such guilt.

It starts at a very early age. Grammar school kids are brutal and heartless and most of the time they get away with it. I think there needs to be a crackdown and severe punishments if kids are caught doing this. Parents need to open their eyes and see what is truly happening. Don't assume your child is innocent and say "Not my Child" or " My child would never do that". Trust me... believe it or not he/she may. Take an active role in your child's life and help stop these tragedies.

Everyone u mean, is a victim of bullying. Every one goes thru it can't stop it. Sticks n stones may break my Boness. word never hurt me. Words r words. Listen to the ones u want. Ignore the ones u don't. Everyone learns this.

So now if ur being bullied just go ahead n do it is the messege Jeanie sends. The last thing God wants u to do is take ur life by urself. Stand-up for urself. That's what ur supposed yto do.

If by Jeanie your referring to me well that is by far the last thing I'm saying you must have read my comment wrong.

As a survivor of a very serious suicde attempt, I feel the need to say a few things. First of all, to the person that said you should just find the will to live and learn to stand up for yourself, you clearly have never suffered from depression. You may have had some bad days, but you have no idea what medical depression feels like.
To all the kids that are realizing the power and effect of their words today. You have gotten national attention, I heard about Ryans death many states away. You have gotten responses from famous people. Your words are powerful. Your words could have probably saved Ryans life. I am not blameing you for his death, but understand that had more people stood up in his defense when he didnt have the strength to, he might be here today. Please remember this the next time you hear people say unkind things about someone. Also know that the things that make you different now are the things that make you special and interesting as an adult. Growing up, I wanted to fit in more than anything, as an adult, I want the opposite.
To the parents. Pay more attention to your kids. If your kids are depressed, talk to them. Dont tell them things like "you dont know how good you have it, This is the best time of your life, wait till you get a job and have to pay bills..........". Those comments just validate the hopeless feelings.
I am sorry for everyones loss. I hope that Ryans death will at least help another kid reach out for the help they need.

bystanders are just as guilty as the person causing the pain through his/her words or actions.
A bully needs an audience...
if the bystanders spoke up or walked away, the bully would stop.

I have a friend whose daughter is the victim of bullying at Tinley Park High School and she DID reach out to many people including the administration at the high school and the Tinley Park Police department. Unfortunately, nothing is being done and this "bully" will continue until something terrible like this happens because she has no consequences, even at home. Shame on the parents that say this boy should have reached out. Many parents of these "bullies" know their children act that way and don't do anything to correct their children. My thoughts and prayers are with the Nash family, I can't even imagine the pain they are suffering because of children that are not taught respect at home.

I hope you guys know he wasn't bullied, at least not by the kids...I didn't know him well at all but I'm a freshman at Sandburg and I know he was one of the most popular kids in our grade and definitely WAS NOT bullied by other kids...I don't know what the cause was, but it wasn't that. Just wanted to clear that up.

God be with his family and his best friend nick. If he truly was bullied I blame the staff at the school because they need to be aware of what's goes on, when are children r in the building.

Porter, how do you know this young man didn't stand up for himself? Maybe he's getting bullied by someone bigger/stronger than him. Maybe even after sticking up for himself, that wasn't enough?

Sandburg mom: we are all saddened by this tragic news and personally affected by this young mans passing. Yes, our children do share their emotions and problems with their parents regarding school problems, peer pressure, sports, grades, rules nd regulations. The school obviously has a biased opinion regarding their employees and fall on deaf ear. The teachers and counselors themselves deny any wrongdoings....we, the parents and/or children are wrong. They better open up their eyes and ears as to what is going on amongst students and the unfairness and imperviousness on their part. God bless this young man and prayers to hs family and friends who will miss him dearly.

As a parent, I have gotten involved with the bullying of my child at Carl Sandburg high school. There are so many unfair practices and biased opinions. If a child comes and asks for help, they cause more problems with their unprofessional responses and immaturity about sticking up for their own teachers, counselors, nurses, etc. what is happening to our trust for the education and safety of our children. I could see why families home school. God be with Ryan..may He hold him in his arms with the joy and peace of heaven.

If you want to talk about this problem first realize he wasnt bullied.....he was a nice kid and had many friends and all of us do love him

And this happens mere months after the article on the Mulvey family filing suit against the school district after their daughters bullying got brushed under the table at Sandburg, I think its clear something serious is going on at this high school and needs to be dealt with. It is not 'normal for every kid to get bullied'. This school has serious issues to resolve and nobody can deny it now.

Lilgilly-how can you be so confident that bullying did not play a role in this tragedy?

Folks, I want you to know that I have now on good authority that bullying is not believed to be a factor in Ryan's passing. It took a little time to confirm it beyond the words coming through on Twitter and here on comments, and I apologize for the delay on that.

if it wasn't bullied what was it

That's a very good question. Unfortunately, in cases like this, sometimes the causes aren't known. That's why I personally think the important thing here is to encourage people not to suffer silently.

There is no way to prevent a person from experiencing pain in life. We can talk about causes all we want, and try to place blame in as many different ways as we can think of, but at the end of the day, the important thing is for a person in pain to find relief. And for anyone in pain to feel comfortable coming forward and saying he or she needs help. Same goes with addiction and many other afflictions.

I know I have buried some of my own issues and struggles, and on that I can tell you it only makes it worse. I knew I had people to turn to, and I didn't because of shame. I think the takeaway here is to simply let people in our lives know that we're here for them when they need it, and that there's nothing to be ashamed about needing help.

It is confirmed by law enforcement & the kids, bullying was not an issue here. No doubt bullying is a big problem, but not in this case.

At this point, it isn't known whether Ryan was bullied or not. My condolences and prayers go out to his family and friends at this time of terrible loss. I can tell you, however, that this school has, at least in the past (I can't speak for now), had a serious bullying problem. I teach at the school where a there is a wonderful young woman who was bullied relentlessly at Carl Sandburg and the school did nothing about it even when it was brought to their attention. It got so unbearable that she finally had to leave the school. She is doing very well here and I am so proud of her strength. Wake up, Carl Sandburg, and address this problem! Nobody should have to live with bullying.

This is tragic for Ryan and all who knew him. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
While I do not know anything about this young man and his tragic choice, I do know that the number one cause of suidide is a psychiatric disorder, ranging from depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and many others. Most is undiagnosed and untreated, especially in young people.
Frequently, psychiatric issues are feared, misunderstood and treated like leprosy by those who aren't educated on the topic.
It is Childhood Mental Health Awareness week. Please educate yourselves about the signs and symptoms that can lead to such a tragic decision that can sadden and change a community.
My prayers and thoughts go out to all who love and miss Ryan.

Well said, Rebecca. Suicide victims think they are escaping the pain, but they are only passing it on, ten-fold to those who love and care about them. Many psychologists say that if a young person would have the ability to wait one, two.... five days, they would see that things get better. Seeking counseling is not taboo like it was years ago. There are many resources available to the community. The Orland Township has certified counselors on staff, ready to help: (http://www.orlandtwp.org/content/youth-family-services or call (708)-403-4222.) Also you can call the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The service is available to anyone. All calls are confidential. Parents keep talking to your children! There is no mistake so big or no problem too great that we can't work together for a solution! Taking your life is ugly and so painful for those you leave behind.

To LILGILLY

Since you are responding to everyone that has commented on "bullying" saying that wasn't the case, why don't you enlighten us and tell us the reasoning to Ryan's sudden death. Obviously the one person that knew was Ryan, and everything else is pure speculation, but it seems you know the truth... please let us know to make a change/

To all teens....when you think you are going through the worst possible thing that could happen to and you see no way out..or you know someone who feels this way... Reach out an adult... If not your parents, try a friend's parent....chances are they have been there (even if they never admitted it to you) or knew someone that had to deal with something similar....remember that adults survived the turmoil and transition that the teenage years bring.....you ARE surrounded by people that care about you...but you will not realize this until you talk to them.......my deepest sympathies

Maybe all you people should leave this family alone during the most tragic time of their lives. Do not blame the school, do not blame the family, he took his own life, and if they want to keep the reason personal than leave them alone. God bless Ryan and his family, they will never be the same.

LilGilly
It seems that when people are jumping to conclusions that this young man took his life because bullying played a part is upsetting to you. To lose someone for any reason at such a young age is tragic and I am deeply sorry for your pain. When and if you feel the time is appropriate maybe you could share what Ryan's reasons might have been, that would be wonderful. Sometimes other people can relate and hopefully think twice before it's too late!! My sympathies to Ryan's family and friends.

Lockport Mom of 4

@Lockport Mom of 4

You're 100% on target. The time has come for the silence to be lifted on these teen suicides. As we're seeing over and over again, silence is deadly. Like you said, understanding Ryan's dilemma could possibly help save someone else. Understandably, right now is much too soon for anyone close to him to talk about it. I've been there; I do get it. At the end of the day, what matters most is that this young man is gone. WHY he's gone doesn't matter at this point, especially to those closest to him.

It is a very private matter and people should just leave it alone. The only people tht need to know is his family it is no one else's business. I have never seen so many people make conclusions on something they nothing about . We should just be saying prayers for the family and for Ryan and stop making up stories and rumors.

Ryan was a beautiful little boy who loved playing ball as early as he could hold onto one. He grew up with a wonderful big sister and parents who loved their children more than anything. He had a smile that could light up a room and was a fun loving, and a good friend. He made many good memories with those who love him, hold onto those good times. Don't dwell on how his life ended, remember how he loved baseball, his laugh and how he enjoyed hanging out with friends.
May you rest in peace, Ryan.

Ok I was friends with him and my half brother is his cousin I knew him in school and he wasn't bullied the thing that led him over the top I can't answer but it isn't right for all you people to try to talk about this.....I agree bullying is a problem but In this case it wasn't the key factor don't try startin more rumors and problems for the nash family just pray and give support for them...#RN20<3

It really is no one's business what Ryan was going through but those that knew and loved him. The rest of you are simply being nosey. Instead of asking why, pray that his family and friends find a way to deal with the pain and grief! My prayers are with the Nash family ans Ryan's friends! Lilgilly thank you for trying stop the rumors!

I have no idea what the root cause of the problem that caused this tragedy was, but I do hope that the family comes out and makes this a teachable moment. I know it's painful at this difficult time, but while there is attention on this it would be a true public service ot use that attention to bring awareness of the "warning signs" that perhaps could have resulted in action that could have prevented this tragedy.

There could perhaps be no greater legacy to Ryan from this tragedy than to save some other family from suffering this painful loss

You know what's funny,all this effort by u guys to fight and argue about it with eachother. Why dont u turn that around and do something good with it. We will never know what truely happened except for Ryan.

U really thing tjats whay he would want from all of u?

How can the next child be helped if we dont know?

It is hopelessness and pain that causes suidide, period. The cause of the hopelessness and pain isn't going to be helpful for anyone to read because all of us have different thresholds for desperation that could result in hopelessness.
What will help us for the future, for that next child, is to know the signs of suicidal thoughts and actions. We need to know our children as best we can, recognize changes in personality or behavior, and not EVER be ashamed to seek the help of others, including professionals.
I think it's a normal reaction for people to wonder what would drive someone to such a tragic choice because we wonder if it could happen to us or people we love. It's just not healthy for grieving family and friends to see details about what may have led Ryan to his choice written on the Internet. Maybe we could all give it a rest?

RIP. #RN20 <3

People it's great to see that you care, BUT RYAN NASH WAS NEVER BULLIED!! Please stop spreading ignorant statements and false information! Don't talk if you don't know the story!

I go to Carl Sandburg high but I never knew Ryan but I'll pray for his family and friends .
R.I.P #RN20

ryan you and me werent the tighest but its ok i have mad respect for you and you will be missed dearly. i honestly wish you could just see how much every1 loves you , i watched u graduate and sadly i cant anymore but it doesnt mean you're forgotten or wont be in ANY1's prayers . WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH RYAN!!!!!!!! #rn20 ~love ShAfFoN n SaNdBuRg kids~ (n andrew and stagg n yeah just about every other school that misses you and your cute smile.<<<<<<<<3333333 u ryan.!!!!!)

I've never met Ryan but he seems like a nice and athletic kid from what I hear. My good friend took his life two months ago and I was devastated. To all his family and friends: stick in there and stay strong he is in a good place

So sad....

He lived in my neighborhood . Lots of love . <3. #RN20

He lived in my neighborhood . <3. #RN20

As a parent of two Sandburg students, I just want say how VERY PROUD I am of all the students at Sandburg. Your support for Ryan and his family has been unwaivering. You grieve him as a community of people who loved and respected him. I see you all honoring Ryan by lifting eachother up, loving eachother and pulling together as a school community. Creating something positive from such a tragedy- (maybe saving someone else from suicide with all the open dialogue) is something most adults would not be able to do. SANDBURG EAGLES- I am proud of you. You are all wise beyond your years. Stay kind and love eachother! MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

This has not only touched the Orland Community. The love and support from Lockport has been amazing too. My niece goes to Lockport HS and she said they all wore black on Monday and White onTuesday and the kids are writing #20 on their shoes and clothes in honor of RN #20.

A number of free resources designed to help people bereaved by suicide are available through the "Suicide Grief Support Quick Reference" (http://sg.sg/griefreference) a tool developed by Unified Community Solutions and a work group of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Consumer-Survivor Subcommittee (1-800-273-TALK/8255).

Whether or not bullying, a relationship breakup, a family problem, a fear, a threat, a comment by a teacher or a respected adult, whatever...the world lost a young man who had value. The school will look into the problem, the family will sort out the circumstances that led to his death, and his friends will forever remember a friend who came and left too quickly. As for the bully comments, it may or may not have been present in his life. If it was, the bullies should take a step back and realize the damage they do. For, it is they who have the disturbed minds lacking attention and needing control. The energy that everyone has should be focused on how to make the school and world a better place IN Ryan's honor. Stop the bullying in the hallways, encourage more positive ways to communicate in relationships (in and out of the home), recognize the signs on depression and suicidal tendencies and speak up even at the cost of losing a friend, and live simply by the Golden Rule that we all learned in kindergarten: Treat people the way who want them to treat you.
My prayer is that all people with suicidal tendancies get help and realize that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Let Ryan's memory live on by changing the world to be a better place. RIP