Would You Let Your Teen-Ager Have Sex in Your House?
A friendly barbecue raises a few eyebrows when two moms face off about sex.
At a recent neighborhood get-together, two moms butted heads about the "appropriate" way to handle sexually active teens.
One mom knew her 17-year-old son was having sex with a girl he'd been dating for seven months. She believed it was best to be open and non-judgmental, provide condoms and allow them privacy in her son's basement bedroom. As she said, "I'd rather have them be in a safe place rather than hiding out somewhere."
I had to wonder if the girl's parents were privy to this arrangement.
The other lady, mother to two tween girls, was in disbelief. While she had not yet experienced the other mom's situation, she was pretty certain there would be no permissible sex under her roof. According to this mom, she believed in frank conversation and had spoken openly, and would continue to do so, about sex with both of her girls.
The mother of the teenage boy became defensive and suggested that the other mom needed a reality check because "kids would find a way to do it no matter what."
And while that may be the case, there's something creepy about permitting your child to have sex somewhere in your home.
Would you give the go-ahead to your teen? Why or why not?